This is a response to purplesagefem’s response to the rest of my questions. [Content warning for the linked post: includes a paragraph about Fallon Fox misgendering her repeatedly and emphatically and accusing her of various horrible stuff, with a link to a whole post in that vein. Be cautious and take care of yourself.] It got long again!
Month: October 2016
Imagine an ant, a tiny little worthless animal who does exactly what its superiors say. That is an ISTJ, that is. They often switch between three expressions to maintain a notion of humanity but really, they cannot be counted as human. If you try to have a conversation with an ISTJ, you will be disappointed, for ISTJs do not have conversations. They recite scripture, or they tell you of their routine, or they argue with you, but they do not have conversations.
Strongly convinced of opinions formed before their teenage years (during which they rebelled slightly and regretted it), the ISTJ is likely to have a bent for the religious. They are calm individuals, on account of being so lacking in everything. New things scare them. These are the people who would adapt to newspeak the easiest.
ISTJs do not have “ambition”. They are empty inside.
If you happen to find yourself in the vicinity of an ISTJ, just move away. ISTJ can spread by touch, I’ve heard, and you will not even notice the change.
https://zombiesintelligently.com/non-fiction/myers-briggs/
God this is so savage
kai-skai added:
well except for the religion and “opinions formed before their teenage years”, that is me
I’d like to point out that actual studies have linked trans suicides to constant misgendering as a cause (one of, I should add), whereas affirmation of gender is known to do the opposite. So intentionally misgendering trans people is pretty much legit trying to kill them.
In other news, water is wet.
Where the study/source?
I’m uber busy at work and I don’t have the time to pull up the specific spot it’s discussed. But, look up the work of Dr. Ry Testa. He’s a trans man tackling these issues.
Someone who knows how to navigate resources and has the spoons and time try and find the paper, save trans momma the trouble.
Sounds super legit though. Being misgendered almost always causes some dissociation and social withdrawal form me since it belittles my identity. I don’t get suicidal thoughts but I could sure as hell see how someone who does would be affected by that.
Hiya!
I’m hoping I could help somewhat.
This is all the work Dr. Testa’s done.
Development of the Gender Minority Stress and Resilience Measure.
Effects of violence on transgender people.
Misgendering a trans person is a violent act. It’s an emotional abuse that cuts deep into who we feel we are at our core. We have enough to deal with internally, adding external voices to that can destroy us.
@TERFs who insist misgendering is just ‘hurt feelings’
🙂 here u go transphobes
This is why assuming people’s gender based on your cissexist preconceptions is wrong.
First response and follow-up questions
Purplesagefem answered four of the questions I posed in my previous post. This post is part response and part follow-up questions to her answers.
It has taken me a while to write and become horribly long – whoops. I kept going back to edit and re-edit and delete and regret the deleting and rewrite the deleted parts from memory as well as possible and rethink and re-edit again, and I’m still not happy and probably missed something, but I don’t think another rewriting would help much and I need the rest of my life back. I also didn’t go back to give the latest version another editing pass, so if you find any errors, clutch them tightly and keep them close to your heart while you whack your way through the rest of the eldritch abomination which is this post until you can finally unfold your stiffened fingers to drop them into a comment.
Hey look, I got professional semi-nudes taken today!
And the coolest news about this is that I had them done in preparation for top surgery (+ hysterectomy and oophorectomy), which will happen on the 4th of November if everything goes as planned!
Pit bull foster mom with her chihuahua rescue puppies
what a gentle and good mother
You’ve probably heard that every article in Wikipedia leads eventually to ‘Philosophy’ if you just keep clicking the first link.
Now you can visualize it.
This site lets you type in the name of any Wikipedia article and build a tree of page relationships that shows how to get to philosophy. It’s ridiculously cool.
what happens if you click the first link in philosophy
(ETA now that I’m home again: you get to “Greek language”.)
‘Post-Transition’ Experiences
Hi Everyone,
I’m Dominik, I’m a psychology student (and a pre-everything trans person myself) and I’m writing my final thesis about the ‘post-transition’ experiences of transsexual people. I find it extremely important to pay attention to this subject because my experiences show that academic studies and academic life in general tend to look at transition (especially medical transition) as the ‘ending point’ of transsexual people’s journey and so very few explore the experiences following the actual transition (however it might be defined – medical, social, etc.).
In my thesis I’m trying to shed some light on this field.I live in Hungary and I’m interviewing people here in person but I can’t seem to find enough volunteers. That’s why I created the online version of my interview. It might take some time to fill it out (an hour maybe) because I’m gonna ask you to write as detailed and exhaustive answers as possible but if you find the time and energy to share your experiences with me, please do so! You would help me out in a major way and I’ll be immensely grateful!
There are two more things:
First: I’m trying to cover a lot of aspects with my questions but of course you don’t have to answer anything you find too personal or triggering in any way, etc.
Second: the whole questionnaire is totally anonymous. I won’t ask about your name, your country, your blog or anything similarly personal.You can find the interview here: https://goo.gl/forms/y61N9DWo6xSVB6412
Please help me out if you can! I’ll be eternally grateful!!
Reblogs help a lot, too, and if you happen to have any questions, just message me!:)
I was a psychology student once and I know how difficult it can be to find enough study participants.
Okay this is a very half-formed thought and I’m not sure where I’m going with it yet, but the fact that the teen girls we’re meant to root for in so many Teen Girl Stories are the ones who are bad at or uncomfortable with performing femininity probably isn’t a coincidence.
And it’s mostly not because the people who create media about teen girls want to shatter gender roles; it’s more likely because even though femininity is the prescribed way for female-identified people to behave it’s also seen as something largely unpleasant.Um. I’m going somewhere with this, maybe after I finish my homework. But I want to hang onto this thought.
ex: the proof of Regina George’s redemption is giving up her hyper-femininity in favor of aggressive, masculine-coded sports
ex 2: in High School Musical Gabriella and Taylor have a bonding moment over their nail beds being “history”, contrasting themselves with the more conventionally feminine cheerleaders. Gabriella is hardly butch but her femininity is portrayed in a more soft, natural way to contrast with Sharpay’s louder, more eye-catching and implicitly unpleasant outfits. Sharpay is not the bad guy because she’s girly, but she’s maybe more girly because she’s the bad guy.
Because caring about your appearance is BAD, that’s a character trait that we associate with Bad Characters, and most especially Bad Women Characters. Sharpay and Regina care so much about their looks because they’re shallow, and that means they’ve unpleasant.
All teenage girls are told, one way or another, that they should care about their looks and put effort into being attractive. But in the stories about teen girls, the only ones visibly caring about their looks are the bitches.
If a Nice Girl ™ wants to make an effort to look good she better have an excuse, like prom or a date or finding out she’s a princess.
Princess Diaries makes such a good point about this, actually. Mia is supposed to be attractive, because she’s the protagonist, but she also can’t do it herself, because that will make her look like just another Vapid Teen Girl. So she gets a makeover handed to her. Pretty is something that Just Happens to nice girls, because if you work at it you’re a bitch.
(Not to mention pretty isn’t compatible with frizzy hair or glasses.)
God, fucking Harry Potter isn’t exempt from this. Hermione gets contrasted with Lavender and it’s so obvious that Lavender is Wrong, because she’s goofy and sentimental and clingy and girly girly girly, in sharp contrast with Hermione “I only do my hair for the Yule Ball, I’ve got shit to do” Granger over here. And that’s not shitting on Hermione! It’s just clear that there’s a very particular sort of teenage girl we’re supposed to like in HP and she doesn’t care about Girl Things.
Even Sky High, the greatest teen movie of all time, falls into this. The women on the good guys’ side are Layla – soft femme, a little tomboyish, has strong opinions – and Magenta – vaguely punkish, v snarky – neither of whom do feminity “right”.
On the bad side there’s Penny, who’s a LITERAL evil cheerleader hivemind, and Gwen, who’s both the most popular girl in school and the actual super villain behind everything. These things are not coincidences.
Crazy.. to think about.
I always think about this for Barack Obama too. Like his parents had an illegal relationship. Loving v Virginia was in 1967. Obama was born in 1961.
People really don’t seem to grasp how recent this was.
Omphaloskeptomai 